“Lavender, Where Are You?”

CW: Descriptions of childhood emotional abuse. There will come a point in 2020 when I can officially say that I have lived longer outside the 9th Circle of Hell than I have within it. I will not, unfortunately, be concurrently able to say that I have spent more time outside of Hell than I have … Continue reading “Lavender, Where Are You?”

Cantrips and Catechisms

CW: Mentions of Southern Evangelical religious beliefs that are pretty darn scary and in my mind qualify as genuine trauma. Also mentions of other forms of childhood trauma. All from the past, though, not the present. So, don’t worry! I promised….about two months ago...to tell the story of how I unmasked about trauma and neurodiversity … Continue reading Cantrips and Catechisms

Subway Sociology #7: Weed Out the Weak

I have spent many years traveling on a graduate student's budget. Travel was - and is - my preferred way of handling the Christmas holidays, which would rank second after the week-that-shall-not-be-named (aka this one) on my list of least favorite times of the year, except for the fact that my travel tradition actually makes … Continue reading Subway Sociology #7: Weed Out the Weak

Blog Awards Series #6/Improv #17: They Say It’s Your Blog Award

ADHD is known for "all or none" thinking, which also translates to "out of sight/out of mind." It's basically the reason our infamous desk piles are productive for us. If we put something away in a "safe spot," we're guaranteed never to look at it again! The right amount of color in an organization scheme … Continue reading Blog Awards Series #6/Improv #17: They Say It’s Your Blog Award

Improv #16: Demotivation-in-laws

*Knock knock* “Who's there?” “Demotivation-in-laws” “Demotivational who?” *Slowly* “No, Demotivation-in-laws” “Oh, Then, I guess I heard you correctly the first time. I was just kind of hoping I was wrong…” “Surprise! We are here to support you!” *Slams door in faces* Things to know about rejection sensitivity in ADHD: 1) We’re sensitive to both real … Continue reading Improv #16: Demotivation-in-laws

The Trolley Persecutor

CW: keeping secrets about child abuse, descriptions of child abuse, discussions of death and systemic abuse, swearing, and standard "never go to the 9th Circle of Hell" trauma. I've said before that I'm open to being challenged on even very sensitive topics on this blog, as long as basic trust and safety is maintained. One … Continue reading The Trolley Persecutor

And Now Back to Our Regularly Scheduled Secrets…

CW: keeping secrets about child abuse, the aftermath of systemic abuse in the present day, family secrets, intergenerational trauma, swearing, and standard "never go to the 9th Circle of Hell" trauma. I've run away from this topic for a good three posts now, but I guess it's time to return to our regularly scheduled shit … Continue reading And Now Back to Our Regularly Scheduled Secrets…

Uh Oh, Spaghetti-Ohs!

You know what they say: if you're stuck in bowl hole, don't keep pigging digging. I grabbed a few spoons - and I don't mean of the good kind - and dug in this week. That's the nature of executive dysfunction coupled with a tendency to dissociate. I am not the best at self-care in … Continue reading Uh Oh, Spaghetti-Ohs!

Messages in a Bottle #8: The Right to Say “I’m Sorry”

On three separate occasions recently, I have found myself writing about apologies. I wrote about how my Partner always apologizes for hurting me in an argument - even when we have both said hurtful things - because he knows that wasn't something I ever heard growing up. Then I wrote in another post how abusers never … Continue reading Messages in a Bottle #8: The Right to Say “I’m Sorry”

For Better or Worse

CW: Anonymity is so inconvenient sometimes. I can't, for instance, tell you the actual state motto of the 9th Circle of Hell. "Abandon Hope, All Ye Who Enter Here," while appropriate, is actually not nearly as morbidly satisfying as the true state motto. If I ever write a memoir of my experiences in Hell - … Continue reading For Better or Worse