Subway Sociology #7: Weed Out the Weak

I have spent many years traveling on a graduate student's budget. Travel was - and is - my preferred way of handling the Christmas holidays, which would rank second after the week-that-shall-not-be-named (aka this one) on my list of least favorite times of the year, except for the fact that my travel tradition actually makes … Continue reading Subway Sociology #7: Weed Out the Weak

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Blog Awards Series #6/Improv #17: They Say It’s Your Blog Award

ADHD is known for "all or none" thinking, which also translates to "out of sight/out of mind." It's basically the reason our infamous desk piles are productive for us. If we put something away in a "safe spot," we're guaranteed never to look at it again! The right amount of color in an organization scheme … Continue reading Blog Awards Series #6/Improv #17: They Say It’s Your Blog Award

Improv #16: Demotivation-in-laws

*Knock knock* “Who's there?” “Demotivation-in-laws” “Demotivational who?” *Slowly* “No, Demotivation-in-laws” “Oh, Then, I guess I heard you correctly the first time. I was just kind of hoping I was wrong…” “Surprise! We are here to support you!” *Slams door in faces* Things to know about rejection sensitivity in ADHD: 1) We’re sensitive to both real … Continue reading Improv #16: Demotivation-in-laws

The Trolley Persecutor

CW: keeping secrets about child abuse, descriptions of child abuse, discussions of death and systemic abuse, swearing, and standard "never go to the 9th Circle of Hell" trauma. I've said before that I'm open to being challenged on even very sensitive topics on this blog, as long as basic trust and safety is maintained. One … Continue reading The Trolley Persecutor

And Now Back to Our Regularly Scheduled Secrets…

CW: keeping secrets about child abuse, the aftermath of systemic abuse in the present day, family secrets, intergenerational trauma, swearing, and standard "never go to the 9th Circle of Hell" trauma. I've run away from this topic for a good three posts now, but I guess it's time to return to our regularly scheduled shit … Continue reading And Now Back to Our Regularly Scheduled Secrets…

Uh Oh, Spaghetti-Ohs!

You know what they say: if you're stuck in bowl hole, don't keep pigging digging. I grabbed a few spoons - and I don't mean of the good kind - and dug in this week. That's the nature of executive dysfunction coupled with a tendency to dissociate. I am not the best at self-care in … Continue reading Uh Oh, Spaghetti-Ohs!

Messages in a Bottle #8: The Right to Say “I’m Sorry”

On three separate occasions recently, I have found myself writing about apologies. I wrote about how my Partner always apologizes for hurting me in an argument - even when we have both said hurtful things - because he knows that wasn't something I ever heard growing up. Then I wrote in another post how abusers never … Continue reading Messages in a Bottle #8: The Right to Say “I’m Sorry”

For Better or Worse

CW: Anonymity is so inconvenient sometimes. I can't, for instance, tell you the actual state motto of the 9th Circle of Hell. "Abandon Hope, All Ye Who Enter Here," while appropriate, is actually not nearly as morbidly satisfying as the true state motto. If I ever write a memoir of my experiences in Hell - … Continue reading For Better or Worse

Frozen in Time

CW: Don't read this if you are in any sort of a bad place. I'm physically safe. I'm mentally shattered. You don't need to do anything. There's nothing anyone can do anyway unless they had serious political connections. I am not a danger to myself or others. No, the danger, as always, is from others, … Continue reading Frozen in Time

Absent without (Family Medical) Leave

I know the DSM-V no longer includes the term "nervous breakdown" anymore. I'm fairly confident even if it did include it, since the origins of my panic attacks, crying, dissociation, and depression are quite well known, I'd still just end up labeled with the "dissociative subtype" of PTSD (aka the compromise that is supposed to … Continue reading Absent without (Family Medical) Leave