#fashion – Lavender and Levity

Coat in the Act

Posted on April 28, 2019May 3, 2019 by lavenderandlevity

Some people are aware of everything, including their clothes, to the point that they can instantly pick out their generic solid-colored raincoat from among all others. There may be many like it, but that one is theirs. My Partner is one of these people. He's acutely aware of color shades and such minute (to me) details, … Continue reading Coat in the Act →

Behind the Back Behavior

Posted on July 17, 2018April 16, 2019 by lavenderandlevity

I feel betrayed. I've just learned for the first time about some truly "behind the back" behavior. I don't mean anything from the 9th Circle of Hell, workplace bullying or even America's President being a traitor - those are all sufficiently terrifying betrayals, but they are hardly newly discovered - but rather something that has … Continue reading Behind the Back Behavior →

Lack of Selfiesteem

Posted on March 23, 2018April 28, 2019 by lavenderandlevity

I love winter because I can plausibly claim scarves as a fashion accessory. I don't have to face the overwhelm that is shopping with ADHD or planning coherent outfits in the morning with low blood pressure. I can wear seemingly infinite permutations of plain black or brown work pants, button-down blouses and vaguely stylish scarves … Continue reading Lack of Selfiesteem →

Why Blog?

1) I’m neurodiverse, chronically ill and a (hopefully vaguely effective) advocate for others. I’ve seen some stuff as a result.

2) I’ll take anyone to task who claims any of the above make anyone else lesser in any way.

3) But – because I’m also an irony magnet – I’m still biologically wired to experience Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and conditioned from past experiences to feel toxic shame personally that I would never apply globally.

4) If I can’t beat the Bully-in-My-Brain, I can at least learn to laugh at it.

5) Puns are awesome.